Odd Smells and Other Things

I’m old school

I seldom text, I like handwritten letters better than emails.

But, when my phone rings and I recognize the ring tone and it does not say Unknown caller I normally answer it.

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I just went to the kitchen and noticed a shitty smell, literally. I sprayed, burned nag, bleached the sink and it persists.

I removed the garbage and took it to the dumpster.

I checked around the house for cat turds or accidents, cleaned the litter box.
Still persists.
I went to the bathroom and looked in the mirror.  I was going to do my usual Noxzema Morning routine.

Their was a dark smudge on my face, I took a tissue and rubbed and did the smell test.

I had found the source of the smell.
Poo on  my face.


Perhaps from a soiled cat paw, or perhaps from me, either scenario was NOT acceptable.

On another issue that I have been thinking on.

I’m old school

I seldom text, I like handwritten letters better than emails.

But, when my phone rings and I recognize the ring tone and it does not say Unknown caller I normally answer it.

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Usually when you have a phone conversation it involves the communication between the caller and the person called.
I realize there are times when the caller has a serious issue and needs to do most of the venting.

On the other hand, common courtesy or phone etiquette would deem that the receiver of the call has moments where he can speak about his day, how they are doing, and what is going on in their corner so too speak.

To be told any interruption in their flow is a judgment call and they will hang up is totally uncalled for.

They might as well get a mirror and talk too it. They would have no worries of interruptions or feedback that for the most part pertains to the what the caller is speaking of.

Heaven forbid the person called is NOT listening.

Perhaps they are  thinking about what THEY might be doing the rest of his or her day.

Than again you have those that pretend to listen, when in reality they are merrily thinking about what they are going to say next, that in all probability has nothing to do with what the caller is talking about.

Now that’s what you call some fucking unrealistic crap.

The Rules of Conversation

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1. Conversation is a Two-Way Street
The first and most important rule of conversation is that it is not all about you, but it’s not all about the other person either.

A monologue, in either direction, is not conversation.

TwoWays

Try to achieve a balance between talking and listening in any conversation.

Respond to What They are Saying
To respond genuinely to what someone has just said means that you have to listen. You can’t just switch off, and think about what you’re going to say next. However, if we’re honest, most of us would admit that we often do just that.

Emails sent remain unanswered, not even a reply on any of the contents. I guess you could think “well, I will just have more to talk about to keep the lines of communication flowing when we do connect”

5 Dos of Conversation

Listen more than you talk. …
Tailor the conversation to the listener. …
Take your turn. …
Think before you speak. …
Don’t interrupt. …

Fell_Down

Yep, missed the step up entirely. I felt like a kid that had fallen off his bicycle only worse cause I am not a kid Smile

and now for a beautiful photo I took yesterday chasing after an Iguana that did not want his picture taken.

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Have a great everyday

Don’t sweat the petty things and don’t pet the sweaty things.” – George Carlin

Well Excuse Me

Listening-Skills

I am reading a wonderful little book called “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and it’s All Small Stuff”  by Richard Carlson

This one of my favorites as I feel each of us has done this or had it done too us.

Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences

When you interrupt someone, or finish his or her sentence, you have to keep track not only of your own thoughts but of those of the person you are interrupting as well.

This tendency (which, by the way, is extremely common in busy people), encourages both parties to speed up their speech and their thinking.

This, in turn, makes both people nervous, irritable, and annoyed. It is also the cause of many arguments, because if there’s one thing almost everyone resents, it’s someone who doesn’t listen to what they are saying.

Once you begin noticing yourself interrupting other, you’ll see that this tendency is nothing more than an innocent habit that has become invisible to you. This is good news because it means that all you really have to do is to begin catching yourself when you forget.

Remind yourself (before a conversation begins, if possible) to be patient and wait. Tell yourself to allow the other person to finish speaking before you take your turn.

You’ll notice, right away, how much the interactions with the people in your life will improve as a direct result of this simple act.

The people you communicate with will feel much more relaxed around you when they feel heard and listened to.

You’ll also notice how much more relaxed you’ll feel when you stop interrupting others.

Your heart and pulse rates will slow down, and you’ll begin to enjoy your conversations rather than rush through them.
This is an easy way to become a more relaxed and loving person.

Listen~Hear~Understand

 

Photo by C. m ART z  2016

From the Daily Om

Cynthia says~I always knew we should listen  for the whispers but now realize it is most important that we hear and understand them.

November 15, 2016
Hearing the Whisper
Underneath the Noise

by Madisyn Taylor

There is beauty and power when we listen to the whisper.

You may have noticed that if you want to speak to someone in a noisy, crowded room, the best thing to do is lean close and whisper. Yelling in an attempt to be louder than the room’s noise generally only hurts your throat and adds to the chaos.

Similarly, that still, small voice within each of us does not try to compete with the mental chatter on the surface of our minds, nor does it attempt to overpower the volume of the raucous world outside. If we want to hear it, no matter what is going on around us or even inside us, we can always tune in to that soft voice underneath the surrounding noise.

It is generally true that the more insistent voices in our heads delivering messages that make us feel panicky or afraid are of questionable authority. They may be voices we internalized from childhood or from the culture, and as such they possess only half-truths.

Their urgency stems from their disconnectedness from the center of our being, and their urgency is what catches our attention.

The other voice that whispers reassurances that everything is fundamentally okay simply delivers its message with quiet confidence.

Once we hear it, we know it speaks the truth. Generally, once we have heard what it has to say, a powerful sense of calm settles over our entire being, and the other voices and sounds, once so dominant, fade into the background, suddenly seeming small and far away.
We may find that our own communications in the world begin to be influenced by the quiet certainty of this voice.

We may be less inclined to indulge in idle chatter as we become more interested in maintaining our connection to the whisper of truth that broadcasts its message like the sound of the wind shaking the leaves of a tree.

As we align ourselves more with this quiet confidence, we become an extension of the whisper, penetrating the noise of the world and creating more peace, trust, and confidence.