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October is over and November is upon us. I love this time of the year living in an environment where seasons never change. Not complaining in the least.
I know winter, the fall of leaves, the smoldering heat of summer.
I feel blessed to have my health and true blue friends I can trust and interact with.
Over the years I have found that our lives are directly related to how we live them. When we do not except any responsibilities for our actions; that in turn have caused another’s reaction, we must deal with ANY consequences good and bad.
Many times our lives spiral and we end up questioning why we have such regular and consistent misfortune.
There is always going to be the scenario of he said, she said ,they said but shouldn’t we be conscious of our thoughts and deeds and how they effect others lives.
When a person feels they have been wronged and their belief systems encourage that if so and so had not did so and so; or said this or that everything would be peaches and crème.
Always looking through the pink tinted lens deceived of the reality we live in.
I always feel it is best to air out our grievances in a kind way. Not too say anything is also detrimental as it makes one feel like they are a doormat.
Things are the way they are. If we are positive than that is what shows up, if we are negative that too rears it’s ugly and unforgiving head.
Some persons are constantly putting the blame on the other. They iterate too anyone they meet or know that will listen to their story of being mistreated.
Not accepting or taking the responsibility for actions that may in fact indirectly have instigated said issues.
As they say every action begets a reaction.
Making another person look bad in someone’s eyes to bolster your own insecurities will never bring a peaceful life too you.
I always loved this:
“Is It True? Is It Necessary? Is It Kind?
Oh! Stay, dear child, one moment stay,
Before a word you speak,
That can do harm in any way
To the poor, or to the weak;
And never say of any one
What you’d not have said of you,
Ere you ask yourself the question,
“Is the accusation true?”
And if ’tis true, for I suppose
You would not tell a lie;
Before the failings you expose
Of friend or enemy:
Yet even then be careful, very;
Pause and your words well weigh,
And ask is it necessary,
What you’re about to say.
And should it necessary be,
At least you deem it so,
Yet speak not unadvisedly
Of friend or even foe,
Till in your secret soul you seek
For some excuse to find;
And ere the thoughtless word you speak,
Ask yourself, “Is it kind?”
When you have asked these questions three—
Asked them in all sincerity,
I think that you will find,
It is not hardship to obey
No ill of any man to say;
No, not a single word.
by Mary Ann Pietzker, published in 1872